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Mr Ixer'It's a little pointless having an argument over whose grandmother had it harder - obviously, they both struggled, my maternal grandmother also had to take cleaning jobs, and both should be respected for supporting their daughters'.I have to concede that one can never outdo you on any topic of  a social nature and so I am reluctant to play the 'Two Yorkshiremen' game with you nor take on the role of Josiah Bounderby.Thank you for pointing out my mistake.I should have said 'single parent', as is used again in the Guardian, to describe the hardship of a woman having to bring up a child alone often when in fact the father has done a bunk or moved on to spawn somewhere else.I think you missed my point about the Virgin Mary but at least it gave you the opportunity to publicise again your free-thinking atheism and anti-Christianity.Albeit that most of our better attitudes are derived from the Ten Commandments in my view.And clever of you to segue onto criticising what I certainly did not advocate and doubt few if any others would either - namely 'putting women in mental institutions, sending them away to homes, or forcibly snatching their babies away shortly after birth, is an improvement in society's standards; similar,  calling women fallen or sinful for becoming single mothers while not castigating the men involved now seems appalling - that seemed to be something propagated by Christian churches'.Perhaps Christians reading this Forum might not recognise this as a description of their belief."isn't the UK now a secular country" ?I don't know.Pop down to Tooting High Street and ask.

John Hawkes ● 53d

Mr Hawkes It's a little pointless having an argument over whose grandmother had it harder - obviously, they both struggled, my maternal grandmother also had to take cleaning jobs, and both should be respected for supporting their daughters. I was interested in your "ten bob social" comment; refreshing my memory with the help of Mr Google, that seemed to be for those that couldn't work through sickness and only men got 10/-; women were given a lower amount of 7/6! The only benefit my grandmother seemed to get was a council flat, which sounded comfortable. I can remember stories of her having to work while unwell, perhaps 7/6 wasn't sufficient to pay rent, and feed and cloth a family? Unfortunately, that's lost in the mist of time so there could be things I'm unaware of. (However, based on her mother's experience, my mother was a strong supporter of equality for women, particularly equal pay.)Perhaps your mistake was referring in your post to "single mothers" while also referring to moral standards constantly declining. I suppose that depends how one measures "moral standards". I'd say not putting women in mental institutions, sending them away to homes, or forcibly snatching their babies away shortly after birth is an improvement in society's standards; similar, calling women fallen or sinful for becoming single mothers while not castigating the men involved now seems appalling - that seemed to be something propagated by Christian churches - possibly because of the (what atheists consider mythical) event I think you refer to in the New Testament.I'd agree with you that fathers should be made to support their children if they have the means and capability, although there may be legitimate reasons why women do not want or fear contact with the fathers; perhaps another moral improvement is providing facilities for women with violent partners? Perhaps the imbalance of support for children being shouldered on mothers is a hangover from the Christian values of labeling unmarried mothers as "fallen women"? I'm sure most mainstream religions now accept conception out of wedlock, and in my experience, most cases of these relationships seem as stable as marriages in the modern world. Unfortunately, I'm not sure acceptance is true of some of the extreme evangelist religions - but isn't the UK now a secular country?

Michael Ixer ● 53d

@PollyannaNo newborn baby needs to go without clothes if it is born in a hospital, as the vast majority are. If the Mother doesn't have a partner or any relatives who can provide some clothes and other essentials for the baby, I am sure the hospital welfare team would step in and contact Adult Social Services on her behalf.  Alternatively she could do this herself on her iPhone (other Smartphones are available.) If the Father of the child still hasn't appeared to say hello to his offspring (aka buggeree off) and to support his child, and Mummy cannot work, Social Services will advise her on all the Benefits she is entitled to, and how to claim them.I agree that talking and reading to children is essential and this should start from day 1 for maximum enrichment and enjoyment and is of huge benefit to the child. Young single Mums in particular must put their phones aside and get as few books in, easily available from charity shops for very little money. Or she could even join a Library! Mum must resist the temptation to buy the child a phone even or a tablet and leave said child in front of it for hours on end. It is an easy option admittedly but taking the child out  for a walk in a park would be of so much benefit to both of them. As the child grows it will, of course, require more and more clothes which can be very expensive, especially if a child wants the latest Designer gear to keep up with its mates. However Mum could buy secondhand school uniforms and scour the many charity shops for decent pre-owned clothes. Moral of the story: no child needs to go naked!

Sue Hammond ● 186d