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You're right.  I don't know the figures but both of my cataract ops went brilliantly well.  My father's went well too but Him Indoors' first one didn't go well and he couldn't see at all out of the eye and had to go for another op which was very awkward to deal with for us both.  They said they weren't worried but that didn't help when he still couldn't see.  I couldn't ask 'how are you today' because it was such a stressful subject and it was better to just keep up all the meds and cleaning and keep distracted on other things. It wasn't until we met someone else with really difficult long-term eye problems from childhood who had had loads of operations on his eyes that he found hope at the end of this tunnel. HI said it was as if he was underwater looking up after the second op but gradually the gas they put in to clean the eye reduced and what was like looking from underwater and seeing the water level drop carried on happening until he had clear sight.  FIL though had so many other eye problems that his cataract operations just didn't seem to make any difference. FIL found life very difficult after MIL died (he did the hearing and she did the seeing - and we didn't realise how much until there was just the one) and FIL wouldn't go out in case he met someone who would greet him and he couldn't recognise them and tell who it was (and we didn't know who it was so couldn't prompt). He was in his 90s and was a war veteran.  We started going out in the car and he could tell where he was on the roads because he had cycled them without lights in the dark so many times during the war. If your father is a war veteran Blind Veterans UK (used to be St Dunstans) can also help as well as the British Legion.  I also see Wandsworth list an organisation called BlindAid https://www.blindaid.org.uk/  I found that the local organisation helped me with equipment because although I had spent a lot of time in London after navigating the RNIB website and visiting them - the practical help of what people were actual using and finding most helpful came from the local association who also visited and offered some things to try rather than just buy!

Philippa Bond ● 1028d

That's impressive.Unfortunately with my elderly FIL technology had changed so much and was continually changing so much that he just could not deal with it.  Not just technology but with a reduction of feeling in fingers as well as not being able to see it or remember instructions for something he had not been able to see was just too much.However there was a wonderful woman from the library (not Putney btw) who used to come ostensibly to change his audiobooks but actually just spent some time talking to him instead. Every time I think of her I send her a virtual hug.You may find that Age UK or a local organisation for the blind (blindness has different degrees) will be useful to you.  Your local eye hospital may also have an ECLO (Eye Care Liaison Officer) who may also help you to navigate available help and equipment.  Managing to keep communication going can be hard work with family and friends.  Parents in law never got to grips with the mobile phone we gave them.  Cordless phones were out of the question as they can be misplaced and lost so easily.  Everything had to have its place and be replaced there and so many things including the big corded phones (with speed dial set up) were actually stuck down with bluetack.  (Phones are being changed now though so not sure what would happen today.)I wonder what we will be using in 30 years' time, how much it will have changed - hopefully not as much - and whether if I'm still around I will have managed to keep up with enough of it!Good luck. 

Philippa Bond ● 1030d