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Martine  Maybe you've not heard about this?I had problems getting in touch with a friend of FIL who was in a care home.  We had seen him fairly recently with his family but he moved homes and although he had told us where he was going it was impossible.  I had the Data Protection Act quoted as the reason why we couldn't speak to him, why they couldn't give him a message and why they couldn't ask his family about.  This was misuse of the Data Protection Act and I'm afraid I did not follow up.  (BTW the friend was OK.)When you are in your late 90s you don't have as may old friends as you used to so it was wonderful to have chats but neither of them was very good with phones.  Neither FIL or MIL ever got to grips with a mobile although we tried.  Getting in touch with people in care homes can be difficult. Although we were told we could have a phone when there (we were used to speaking each evening) we were later told there weren't enough lines.  The only portable phone was also used for calling ambulances and ordering medication. Of course we did not want to interfere with this.  However they were very good and welcoming where family and visitors were concerned and they did try with entertainment although I know it was quite difficult to encourage people to leave their rooms sometimes.  Nowadays everyone has their own TV in their rooms. Being blind FIL wanted people to talk to. There was better chat around the table at mealtimes (so something to be allowed to linger over) than in the sitting room.

Philippa Bond ● 1377d

I remember council care homes being privatised and sold off to buyers from abroad and then asset stripped because the land is worth more than the businesses (especially if you run down the businesses).It must be quite difficult to organise redecoration of single rooms at a time before a new occupant takes residence.Just as in hospitals and in the home-care sectors there tends to be a shortage of staff.  Looking after people who need two people at the same time to help them and turn them so that they don't get bed sores or to help them have a bath or shower is labour intensive and so expensive.  Elderly and less mobile people do not like to be and shouldn't be hurried along - so require more time.  Despite all the en suite bathrooms advertised your loved one may not get that bath or shower because of a staff shortage. (This aspect still haunts me as it was a selling point and yet it never happened in our case.)The number of qualified nurses is very low and many carers may not have had a lot if any training.  I believe it has to be a qualified nurse who has to be in charge and who doles out the medication - which nowadays can be very complicated.  I was surprised at how quickly the ambulance service was called for if there was a problem.I read the other day that carers were going to work for Amazon rather than work in the care sector - and I thought that their rates of pay weren't good.Please visit your friends and relations if you can!  A good care home welcomes visitors to their residents and it also means that they have more time to talk to those who have no visitors.https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/mar/01/hc-one-uk-largest-care-home-provider-sell-off-52-covid-crisis-threatens-viability

Philippa Bond ● 1378d